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    4 Easy Steps to Learning to Cook

    When asked if you can cook is your answer “yes?”? That was me three and a half years ago! Now I am comfortable cooking for guests. If you can’t confidently say “yes,” you can’t really cook, by the way, but you can learn! A better question is, “Do you have skill in cooking?” Before teaching myself to cook, I was insecure about the process of learning. For many this stops them from trying, but I have outlined the basic steps for improving your proficiency in the kitchen. If I knew what it took to be confident in cooking, I would have been more eager to teach myself before I spent…

  • life

    Intervention: Addicted to Breastfeeding

    I should have known what I was in for when you came out of the womb and went straight for my breast. You nursed for 45 minutes! I was smitten and so proud. Once we were home, I cheerfully raised your helpless body up to my chest. Daddy helped you learn where your mouth should be. I swooned at your gulps and sighs of bliss. Everyday you were home with me and I fed you. I happily spent my days dispensing and collecting milk because you were so precious. You knew I was your lifeline and rewarded me with your affection. Watching you be so tender and sweet and dependent upon me…

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    Budget Hacks

    One of the side effects of quitting a job is having less income. Surprise, surprise. Prior to obtaining the job I just left, we were living on E-4 (specialist) pay. I didn’t like it. As soon as I started working I commenced the bougie behaviors I had been forced to deny myself. Now we will be living on E-5 (sergeant) pay but with extra expenditures like diapers. Could be a recipe for disaster. Never to be outdone, I have spent some time hacking our spending in hopes of finding money in our pockets as is. It is not a secret that people tend to increase their standard of living to…

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    7 Ways to Make Friends

    One of the hurdles of being a military spouse is having to make friends as an adult. The younger you are the easier it is, but at some point you won’t be 21 and able just find friends based on who likes to go out. When I moved away to St. Louis, MO after college, I had to make an effort to make friends in a city with people who weren’t interested in making friends because they still had theirs from high school. When I moved to Fort Bragg, I was used to the routine and used some of the same methods I had tried before. Now I would say…

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    As if I Needed a Reason to Quit That Job

    I was nervous almost to the point of tears as I dialed my team lead’s number to give her my two weeks notice. I wasn’t sad or unsure- I worked from home, only had a couple friends, and kind of hated the work- but I was still scared. There was no doubt in my mind I needed to leave my job. Does the cancerous tumor need to be removed? Yes. But it was scary because of what may come next. I almost felt like staying to avoid facing the fear, and understood how less courageous people may stay for that exact reason. “I know we’re not supposed to ask, but why???”…