• career

    As if I Needed a Reason to Quit That Job

    I was nervous almost to the point of tears as I dialed my team lead’s number to give her my two weeks notice. I wasn’t sad or unsure- I worked from home, only had a couple friends, and kind of hated the work- but I was still scared. There was no doubt in my mind I needed to leave my job. Does the cancerous tumor need to be removed? Yes. But it was scary because of what may come next. I almost felt like staying to avoid facing the fear, and understood how less courageous people may stay for that exact reason. “I know we’re not supposed to ask, but why???”…

  • life

    Go To Work Wife

    In another life I set my alarm early, for 8 am, so I could get up and not rush to get to Crossfit at 9. After my workout, I zoomed home to get lunch ready for my husband by 11:30. My goal was typically to be showered and have my eyebrows drawn on. The afternoon was spent doing chores. Dinner was ready around 6, and Spencer and I hung out for the rest of the evening. Now my day isn’t so simple. I wake up at 5, go to the gym, get ready for work for an hour, possibly do chores, drive there, be there NINE hours. Come home. Somehow dinner…

  • career

    Dear Hiring Manager,

    Please find detailed my unemployment history starting on January 30, 2015 until present. While it may seem that I should be employed right now, I assure you that my time away from the desk can be lamented and accounted for. February-April I had initially expected this to be my period of applying to and interviewing for jobs. I had expected to find a position that would be the next step in my career and paying more than I previously made since I thought I was under-paid as it was. I ended up taking a job with Bankers Life and Casualty Company at the very end of March, and spending April…

  • #wifelife

    A Lady in the Streets and a Freak with the Bleach

    I couldn’t sleep well the night before beginning my tenure as a Stay-at-Home Wife. I was nervous about how I would do and if I would earn my keep. Even though I had been married for two months by then, this was my first day as a fully functional wife. I didn’t really know what that looked like. I texted Christy early in the day. Christy is an adult I used to work with who has three teen-aged children. She knows how to be a wife, and I knew she would be there for me. She walked me through making stir fry. I don’t know if I would have ever known…

  • social

    No New Friends

    Making friends as an adult is hard. I moved to St. Louis right after college and spent the rest of the year with basically no friends other than my roommate and a few friends from college, and a guy with uneven cornrows from across the street, if I’m being generous. Adults have several things going on and usually aren’t all like “Hey, do you want to be best friends?” One of my good friends, Allison, moved to Chicago this year and has been suffering from friendlessness alongside me. One day a girl in Panera gave Allison a cookie she had acquired for free, and at the end of the visit,…