• #wifelife

    Budget Hacks

    One of the side effects of quitting a job is having less income. Surprise, surprise. Prior to obtaining the job I just left, we were living on E-4 (specialist) pay. I didn’t like it. As soon as I started working I commenced the bougie behaviors I had been forced to deny myself. Now we will be living on E-5 (sergeant) pay but with extra expenditures like diapers. Could be a recipe for disaster. Never to be outdone, I have spent some time hacking our spending in hopes of finding money in our pockets as is. It is not a secret that people tend to increase their standard of living to…

  • social

    7 Ways to Make Friends

    One of the hurdles of being a military spouse is having to make friends as an adult. The younger you are the easier it is, but at some point you won’t be 21 and able just find friends based on who likes to go out. When I moved away to St. Louis, MO after college, I had to make an effort to make friends in a city with people who weren’t interested in making friends because they still had theirs from high school. When I moved to Fort Bragg, I was used to the routine and used some of the same methods I had tried before. Now I would say…

  • Uncategorized

    Site Update

    At the beginning of June I migrated from wordpress.com to self-hosting. I basically went from blogging lite to the paid version. I started talking to a designer I found on Facebook Marketplace who was going to maintain my site for $50/month. After I finally got the site content migrated to the new host (a two-week debacle), he informed me he would have to host my site or I would need to pay $500 for a one time service. Because I needed to be able to cut ties with him if I wasn’t happy with his work, I did not want him to host my site. At Youtube’s suggestion, I decided…

  • life

    I Lost My Child’s Social Security Card and I’m Still Killing the Game

    I called the DEERS office Friday before my appointment on Monday to verify what time it was since I never received an email. “Wilson?” “No, Weldon. W-E-L-D-O-N.” “Oh, okay… I don’t see any appointments. Wellons, right?” This went on for over a minute. Since changing my last name, I had never had trouble spelling it for people, which is what I liked about it after growing up with a name evident of my Nigerian roots. She didn’t have an appointment for me even though I had called a week prior, but she put us in another slot on Monday and told me to bring the baby’s birth certificate. Here comes…

  • TV

    The Bachelorette: Becca Episode 7

      One thing that did not stay in Vegas was the news that Colton is a VIRGIN! Remember virgins? I was one in college. Is it as big of a deal its always made out to be on these shows? Yes. Is he virtuous or is there something off about him we don’t know yet? Becca took Colton on the first date. Just as he starts to explain how he isn’t very experienced, a black guy with brown dreads comes to take then conch diving. Once again, I don’t know where they are but given their excursion chaperone, they are in The Islands. Colton tells Becca due to the fact…

  • Wellness

    Weight Loss Tips for Lazy People

    Last month my husband stopped me from eating my last bite of chocolate cake. “You’re eating chocolate cake? You had Chick-Fil-A this morning. Did you eat all those chicken minis?” Yes, I did eat the chicken minis in addition to the sausage and egg burrito and hash browns. Some women wouldn’t appreciate their partners questioning their eating habits but a few weeks prior, I had specifically asked my husband to judge me for my food choices. He didn’t because I wasn’t in the ‘danger zone.’ This evening I was in the danger zone. Memorial Day weekend I made a Pinterest poke cake and frozen half to possibly take to a…

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    Becca Episode 6

    Before Becca’s date with Jason, Chris and Lincoln get into a little fight because Chris is feeling testy. Jason and Becca visit an Edgar Allen Poe museum and play with donuts. Jason is surprised with three of his best friends and they do a good job of making him look good to Becca. The men are dressed smartly in suits for the group date. They meet our founding fathers and prepare for a Beccalection. The questions are cute and allow the men to provide fun answers until Lincoln decides to mention that he has never considered going home unlike Chris. In true politician fashion, Chris goes after Lincoln making out…

  • TV

    Becca Episode 5

      The show is finally getting past the chaff and onto the actual contenders for a relationship with Becca. This week they went to Vegas and I realized I don’t know where they were before. I’m pretty sure they begin in California but last week it was cold so were they in California? Becca rides camels with Colton on a date and that’s all there is to say about the date. Back at the house, David is trolling Jordan yet again because he doesn’t have anything of value to say on is own. David is discussing what it’s like to get the next to last rose and even though he…